Video games. They’re a source of fun and excitement for kids of all ages. But they can also be a source of stress for parents. Worries about screen time top the list, and online gaming has given parents even more to worry about.
Despite these worries, there’s no denying that playing video games can have some positive perks for both kids and parents. The trick is for parents to balance these benefits with potential hazards and these words of advice from Change for Kids can help them do so.
Eliminate Extra Stress
Letting your kids play video games is a good way to keep them occupied while you work from home. If you’re sharing an internet connection and a cramped space, however, you could be setting yourself up for more distractions than productivity. Start reducing these potential stressors by making sure your home’s WiFi connection is strong and reliable enough to handle multiple users. Fiber-optic connections are available in most major cities, and this lightning-fast service will result in smoother gaming for kids and better remote work experiences for parents.
If sharing space is your main concern, setting boundaries will keep your kids from distracting you during the workday. Set physical boundaries by setting a dedicated office space in a spare room or by using dividers to split up a room in a small home. You can establish less tangible boundaries by balancing set routines with the right amount of flexibility. Let your kids take a brain break and play video games from time to time but set rules around that playtime.
Reinforce Positive Behaviors
Gaming can be a worthwhile hobby for children because it can teach them how to solve problems and how to play fairly with others. Even so, the potential for meltdowns and problems is always present. To counteract these issues, be sure to step in and offer praise whenever your children demonstrate positive gaming behaviors. Maybe this means letting them know you’re proud of them when they show empathy for virtual team members? Or perhaps you can provide encouragement when your kids need to resolve an online conflict?
However you proceed, know that supporting positive choices your children make can have a major impact on their development and self-confidence. Programs that advocate for social-emotional learning, or SEL, can help children develop more empathy, emotional regulation, impulse management and self-control, and parents can help boost these effects at home.
Be Aware of Potential Dangers
Regardless of the potential benefits of gaming, parents should also be aware of common risks. Some of the top dangers children can face when gaming online are:
Online harassment and bullying.
Cyber attacks and data breaches.
You can assess these risks by monitoring gaming, but talking with your kids about online dangers tends to be more effective. Create an open dialogue so that your children feel comfortable talking to you about red flags.
If you think your child is being bullied online, being able to discuss incidents with them is important. Be willing to listen to them talk about their feelings and concerns, and be prepared to help navigate problems. It may also be prudent to seek advice and resources from your pediatrician or even a licensed counselor.
Set Reasonable Limits
Apart from online threats, it’s also crucial for parents to understand the impact that screen time can have on their kids’ health and well-being. Doing so can be easier said than done, however, when even experts are still trying to figure things out. What they do know is that young children should have the strictest screen limits. In fact, the WHO recommends zero screen usage for kids 18-24 months and no more than 1 hour each day for children 2-5.
For older kids and teens, you can use your best judgment to set limits around gaming and screen time. Using a family media planner like this one from the American Academy of Pediatrics can make setting boundaries around all types of digital media less stressful.
There’s no reason why gaming can’t be simple and fun for kids. As long as you set clear boundaries and expectations, you can ensure your children have a safe and enjoyable experience.
by Monica LaBadia, Associate Director of Communications & Engagement
School looks different this year, that’s for sure. Have you been wondering what it is like for students right now? What’s it like wearing a mask to school, maintaining social distancing, or participating in remote learning?
At Change for Kids, we pride ourselves on engaging directly with students. Kids are agents of their own future, and often know exactly what they need.
So Travis Welcome, CFK’s Senior Director of Programs & Innovation, sat down with students at our longtime partner school, P.S. 6X in the South Bronx, and asked them what it has been like to go to school in 2020. Travis also asked them what they think about CFK’s Youth Engagement Center, where 200 students will have access to critical out-of-school care 10 hours per day, 5 days per week.
Meet Kaylee, one of the rockstar scholars Travis was lucky enough to meet and interview.
Kaylee’s favorite subject is math because “you’ll need it in life to count money and pay your bills.” 2020 has taught her that “health comes first, then school.” She’s keeping social distanced and wearing her mask, and happy to be in school and staying healthy. But, she’s only in school some days of the week on a hybrid learning schedule. And Kaylee says she prefers being in-person at school, as opposed to remote learning at home, because she “feels like she learns more in person than online.”
When she’s remote learning, she says she misses “interacting with teachers” in-person. When Travis mentioned the upcoming CFK YEC, she imagines that it will be “more fun” than just “going home and doing homework” alone. She’s most excited to have a space to “learn more” and “move more” at the YEC. And on the YEC’s extended day schedule, Kaylee says she’ll have “more time to learn.” Now there’s an idea we can get behind!
Watch the whole interview below, where Travis and Kaylee talk about everything she’s feeling in today’s learning environment, and more about how excited she is for the upcoming opening of the CFK YEC!
Change for Kids is proud to announce our new Senior Director of Programs & Innovation, Travis Welcome. In a world that is ever changing, having someone at the crossroads of impactful programming and forward thinking innovation will be critical for our organization’s health and growth.
Travis is a proud Brooklyn native who advocates on behalf of youth, with a specific focus on children in the Foster Care/Child Welfare system. Prior to joining Change for Kids, Travis was the Director of After School & Mentorship Programs at Mott Haven Academy Charter School, as well as the Director of Camp Felix at The Felix Organization. With over 12 years of program management and youth development experience, Travis is dedicated to designing programs that offer children the opportunity to explore, engage & reimagine their possibilities. In addition to collaborating with young people, mission-aligned organizations, and local government officials, in Travis’ former roles, he also partnered with corporations such as TD Bank, Apple, NY Jets & NY Yankees to develop meaningful experiences for children that provide exposure and increase social awareness. He also serves as Co-Chairman for the NY Foundling Junior Board of Directors.
Travis believes that “with one idea and the right resources, children can be taught to look beyond their circumstances and evolve into tomorrow’s world leaders.” Change for Kids is thrilled to collaborate with Travis to develop new and innovative ways to continue to create opportunities for kids so they can overcome inequity.
by Monica LaBadia, Associate Director of Communications & Engagement
Last week Change For Kids hosted our first ever virtual meeting of the minds: the Reimagine Youth Development Conference.
As with many other organizations, we had to shift our mode of program delivery as a result of COVID-19, as well as rethink the imminent needs of the young people we work with. We recognize that youth development organizations, education institutions, and others are in similar situations of reimagining best practices for delivery and policy – both in a pandemic world and with the recent social uprising. As such, our virtual summit carried the goal of bringing together a diverse group of thought leaders, practitioners, educators, policy makers, and funders for an open and engaging dialogue on the ever changing needs of our young people and the systems and programs that serve them.
The conference was structured by panel, with two live streams happening simultaneously on YouTube. Viewers could choose which panel they wanted to watch, or even toggle between them. We had over 200 registrants join us for thrilling, engaging, and inspiring conversations that will stay with us for quite some time.
Some of our favorite take aways from the conference:
No matter how many times you practice, this virtual world will keep you on your toes! We had a few kinks with our first panel, but our audience and panelists were patient and we got the broadcast working!
The Youth Development space has some of the most brilliant, passionate, and gifted minds. The future may be uncertain, but with these experts leading the way, there indeed is optimism.
Our young people are not only our leaders of tomorrow, but our leaders TODAY. The “What WE Need” panel gave us all the feels. We talked about the pandemic, Black Lives Matter, and how kids are adapting to learn remotely.
It’s never too late to reimagine possibilities. A group of five individuals, working remotely during a pandemic, put this conference together and operated all of the technology. We can’t teach our young people to dream big and bold unless we are willing to do it ourselves.
I was intrigued by CFK’s mission and decided to conduct a study of the organization for my graduate program at NYU. Now, I have the amazing opportunity to intern here this summer.
My interest in studying the organization Change for Kids stems from my unyielding commitment to provide every child with an excellent and equitable education. Change for Kids is a mission based non-profit 501(c)(3) organization that not only understands the underlying issues and disparities of the public education system, but also, and more importantly, takes action through various approaches. The stated mission of Change for Kids (CFK) is “to create opportunities for kids so they can overcome inequality. We provide critical supports, experiences, and access so kids in New York City public schools can overcome inequity and reimagine their possibilities.” The wording around their mission is intentional; education reform has developed numerous buzz words such as “narrowing the achievement gap.” Yet, CFK understands that the inequality derives from an “opportunity” gap rather than a “achievement gap.” The mission and core values of CFK redirects the focus on the structural inequalities in society that creates barriers for children in low income communities and is aligned to their approach as an organization. CFK is an inspiring organization that is making real time change in the lives of children and families across NYC. Their wide range of programming around academic and social enrichment, strategic resource distribution, and community engagement has made a profound difference in the lives of children and families. While their approach is research based and constantly adapting to the needs of the community, with every organization, there is always room for improvement. With an analysis of purposeful conversations, detailed interviews, and thorough research on the organization, it is evident that Change for Kids is undoubtedly an exemplary non-profit, striving for a more just society for all.
You can read the full paper I wrote for my course at NYU, here.
New York City is a world city and a pace-setter. It is a beacon of hope to many and a space where creativity flourishes. For New Yorkers, our diversity in many forms — race, national origin, ethnicity, sexual identity or orientation, religious or spiritual beliefs, industries, and occupations — is our greatest asset.
Recent unrest in our city, across our nation, and around the world is a reminder of the fact that our nation remains a work in progress. We are a nation founded on imperfections. Too often, these unaddressed imperfections manifest themselves in the form of the degradation, humiliation, and even death of Black people by those who are sworn to serve and protect.
As leaders of Asian, Black, Latino and Middle Eastern descent, we say this is intolerable. The lives of Black people matter. Being Black is not a crime and peacefully protesting criminal behavior of some in law enforcement does not make us anti-police. While we support the work of our police officers who keep our communities vibrant and safe, we cannot stand by idly while innocent Black people are killed or abused by those who act unlawfully.
The right to assemble, dissent, and peacefully protest is a fundamental tenet of American democracy. True patriots are those who challenge our democracy to be all that it can be.
As leaders who believe in the freedoms codified in the United States Constitution and the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, we also go on record as deploring and condemning the looting of business establishments by vandals and opportunists. Whether mom-and-pop stores, large corporations, or somewhere in between, businesses are vital to our economy. Large, medium, or small, they are at the core of what makes New York City a world class city.
Like all New Yorkers, we look forward to a return to normalcy. However, we do not seek a return to injustice, inequity, unfairness, marginalization, hatred, privilege, or contempt.
We call on our local, state, and national leaders to protect our rights, create opportunities that will jump-start our economy, and move us closer to the more perfect union spoken of by the Founding Fathers. As was the case nearly 250 years ago, we call for strong leadership from our government. We seek leadership that is truly representative of all people, not just the powerful few. With strong and representative leadership we can create and implement meaningful policies that address longstanding structural impediments.
As Americans and New Yorkers committed to improving the quality of life for Black people and other historically marginalized populations, we demand that:
• Black New Yorkers and their allies are provided space to raise their voices and attack injustice;
• systems that perpetuate poverty and stifle economic freedoms be dismantled; and
• opportunities are created to enable those who have historically been left behind to flourish and thrive.
To make these demands a reality, we call for:
• Changes in police training, practices, culture, and tactics and
• the end to the unwarranted surveillance of political activists and community advocates.
• Increased access to city, state, and federal contracting opportunities for community-based organizations and small businesses, in particular those owned by people of color, women, veterans, or other marginalized groups
• an end to tax incentives that disrupt the social fiber of low-income communities, foster displacement, and undermine small businesses; and
• greater support for the establishment, management, and growth of worker-owned cooperatives, especially in communities that have historically had low rates of business establishment by neighborhood residents.
• An expansion of the AmeriCorps, City Year, Jobs Corps, GEAR-UP, and TRIO programs to create additional education, skills training, and employment opportunities for New York’s historically marginalized populations;
• increased federal and private funding for “shovel ready” city or metro New York area-based infrastructure improvement or enhancement projects that will create employment opportunities that provide living wages for our city’s low-income residents; and
• reforms in federal Opportunity Zone legislation that increase capital access for low-income New York City communities without draining those communities of needed tax resources or providing additional tax relief for those who already enjoy numerous tax benefits
It is long overdue that our communities’ needs and demands be prioritized, and it is time for our City to make the deep systemic investments in our communities that we have been calling for far too long. When we have an honest dialogue about how we got here, we will dismantle the system that perpetuates our poverty and disenables our economic freedoms. When we are provided space to use our voice and attack injustice, we will make good on the promise of America for those who were not considered Americans when our country was founded, and for the generations of Americans who have been left behind. Only then can we rebuild.
For all of our brothers and sisters who have and continue to fight against racial, social and economic injustice.
Steve Choi, Executive Director, New York Immigration Coalition Janelle Farris, President & Executive Director, Brooklyn Community Services Damyn Kelly, JD, PhD, President & CEO, Lutheran Social Services of NY Frankie Miranda, President and Chief Executive Officer, Hispanic Federation Jose Ortiz, Jr., Executive Director, New York City Employment and Training Coalition Eileen Torres, Executive Director, BronxWorks Jo-Ann Yoo, Executive Director, Asian American Federation *Sudha Acharya, Executive Director, South Asian Council for Social Services Diya Basu-Sen, Executive Director, Sapna NYC, Inc. Esther Benjamin, CEO and Executive Director, World Education Services Carla Brown, Executive Director, Charles A Walburg Multi-Service Organization, Inc Jessica Clemente, Chief Executive Director, We Stay/Nos Quedamos, Inc. Robert Cordero, Executive Director, Grand Street Settlement Joan Oby Dawson, PhD, Chairperson of the Board, Harlem Congregations for Community Improvement Karen Dixon, Executive Director, Harlem Dowling-West Side Center Kevin Ervin, Executive Director, Change for Kids Sabrina Evans-Ellis, Executive Director, Youth Development Institute Lakythia Ferby, Executive Director, STRIVE NY Jeehae Fischer, Executive Director, The Korean American Family Service Center Debbian Fletcher-Blake, Chief Executive Officer, Vocational Instruction Project Community Services, Inc. Ingrid Floyd, Executive Director, Iris House, Inc. Margaret Fung, Executive Director, Asian American Legal Defense and Education Fund (AALDEF) Peter Gee, Interim Executive Director, The Door Lisa Gold, Executive Director, Asian American Arts Alliance William Goodloe, President & Chief Executive Officer, Sponsors for Educational Opportunity Anita Gundanna, Co-Executive Director, Coalition for Asian American Children and Families Sunil Gupta, Dean, Adult Continuing Education & Workforce Development, Borough of Manhattan Community College LaShawn Henry, Chief Executive Officer, Urban Strategies of New York Inc Paloma Hernandez, Chief Executive Officer, Urban Health Plan Inc. Wayne Ho, President and Chief Executive Officer, Chinese-American Planning Council Jukay Hsu, Co-founder & Chief Executive Officer, Pursuit Marwa Janini, Executive Director, Arab American Association of New York Carine Jocelyn, Chief Executive Officer, Diaspora Community Services Dominique R. Jones, Executive Director, Boys & Girls Club of Harlem Roderick Jones, Ed.D, Executive Director, Goddard Riverside Amaha Kassa, Executive Director, African Communities Together Gabrielle Kersainr, Executive Director, Brooklyn-Queens-Long Island Area Health Education Center Sanjana Khan, Executive Director, Laal NYC Jeremy Kohomban, President and Chief Executive Officer, The Children’s Village Harvey Lawrence, President and Chief Executive Officer, BMS Health and Wellness Centers Hong Shing Lee, Executive Director, CMP Linda Lee, President & Chief Executive Officer, Korean Community Services of Metropolitan New York, Inc. Mae Lee, Executive Director, Chinese Progressive Association Regina Lie-Seid, Executive Director, Chinese Methodist Center Corporation Maria Lizardo, Executive Director, Northern Manhattan Improvement Corporation (NMIC) Rosemary Lopez, Executive Director, AIDS Center of Queens County Derrick A. Lovett, President and Chief Executive Officer, MBD Community Housing Corp. Vanessa Luna, Co-Founder, Chief Program Officer, ImmSchools Glenn D. Magpantay, Executive Director, National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA) Marissa Martin, Executive Director, The Advocacy Institute Yesenia Mata, Executive Director, La Colmena Kavita Mehra, Executive Director, Sakhi for South Asian Women Mari G. Millet, President & Chief Executive Officer, Morris Heights Health Center Paul Moore, Deputy Executive Director & Chief Operating Officer, Morrisania Revitalization Corp Haydee Morales, Executive Director, Casita Maria Dr. Danielle R. Moss, Chief Executive Officer, Oliver Scholars Linda Oalican, Executive Director, Damayan Migrant Workers Association Reuben Ogbonna, Executive Director, The Marcy Lab School Toyin Omolola, Chief Executive Officer, Dsi International Inc John Park, Executive Director, MinKwon Center for Community Action Marjorie D Parker, President and Chief Executive Officer, JobsFirstNYC Liliana Polo-McKenna, Chief Executive Officer, Opportunities for a Better Tomorrow (OBT) Malcolm A. Punter, Ed.D, MBA, President & Chief Executive Officer, Harlem Congregations for Community Improvement, Inc. (“HCCI”) Jocelynne Rainey, Chief Executive Officer, Getting Out and Staying Out Marble Reagon, Executive Director, Women’s Center for Education and Career Advancement Zareta Ricks, Executive Director, Opening Act Janet Rodriguez, Chief Executive Officer, SoHarlem, Inc. Jerelyn Rodriguez, Chief Executive Officer, The Knowledge House Rosita Romero, Executive Director, Dominican Women’s Development Center Nathaly Rubio-Torio, Executive Director, Voces Latinas Jeannette K. Ruffins, Chief Executive Officer & Executive Director, West End Residences Marrisa Senteno, NDWA NY Chapter Co-Director, National Domestic Workers Alliance Sharon Sewell-Fairman, Executive Director, Workforce Professionals Training Institute Frederick Shack, Chief Executive Officer, Urban Pathways Nikita Sheth, Chief Executive Officer, Womankind Yvonne Stennett, Executive Director, Community League of the Heights Jennifer Sun, Co-Executive Director, Asian Americans for Equality Bishop Mitchell G Taylor, Chief Executive Officer, Urban Upbound & Center of Hope Int’l Robert Taylor, Executive Director, Youth Action YouthBuild East Harlem (YAYB) Joseph Turner, President and Chief Executive Officer, Exponents and Co-Chairperson, NYS Harm Reduction Association Christopher Watler, Chief External Affairs Officer, Center for Employment Opportunity Kimberly Watson, Chief Operating Officer, Graham Windham Andre White, Executive Director & Chief Executive Officer, Phipps Neighborhoods Angela Williams, Executive Director, I Have A Dream – NY Foundation Thomas Yu, Co- Executive Director, Asian Americans For Equality Lourdes Zapata, President & Chief Executive Officer, South Bronx Overall Economic Development Corporation (SoBRO)
On Friday, May 29, 2020, CFK was proud to host a Virtual Career Day!
Normally in May, CFK facilitates in-person Career Days with several of our corporate partners. Kids take field trips to different workplaces around the city. Through these types of opportunities that expand their awareness beyond the familiar, kids see what is possible for their unique future and be empowered to make them a reality.
And just because we are quarantined due to the coronavirus pandemic does not mean we are stopping our programing! CFK decided we would still hold a Career Day, but this year, it would be Virtual.
The result was nothing short of fantastic! We had hundreds of kids tune in to each panel. Because the event was virtual, held via Zoom, students from our partner schools, like P.S. 160, Grant Avenue, P.S. 6, and P.S. 329, students from all over NYC, and students all across the country could join us. Panelists first spoke about their careers, then kids could ask their questions live as “spotlighted speakers,” or they could type their questions into the chat box. The chat box was buzzing as kids asked panelists everything on their minds!
Our college panel kicked us off. We had panelists from law school, fashion school, and business school. The most popular question was, “Is college hard?” Our panelists reasoned, yes, college is hard, but it’s so worth it.
Next, we learned from panelists in the Arts and Media. Our panelists ranged from artists, to editors at Essence, to designers at frequent CFK collaborator B Floral. Kids were thrilled to meet artists and learn that careers that don’t seem “practical” are still available to them.
Midway through the day, we received this powerful message from a teacher at P.S. 160:
“The first two sessions have been really good. Good content and presentation!”
With this positive feedback driving us into the afternoon, we moved on to our Entrepreneur/Business panel. One of our panelists worked at CFK corporate partner Deloitte, and our other speakers had all started their own businesses. Kids learned how to navigate changing paths when things didn’t go as planned, and were inspired to be the agents of their own lives.
We finished our day with a STEM panel, where kids heard from healthcare researchers and app developers. We even got to talking old school video games! Kids asked what the hardest part of a job in STEM in is and heard that if you do what you love, the hard work pays off.
We are appreciative of all of our panelists who spent the day opening the minds of kids in our communities. When things can seem hopeless for a kid, whether that is from the larger circumstances of our world, or from smaller situations they find themselves in, having exposure to something different, something beyond them, can motivate them to boldly pursue their dreams. I’m excited for the art, research, apps, businesses, and who knows what else, the kids who joined us will create!
Principal Hicks of P.S. 160 sent us flying into the weekend with this note:
“I just wanted to express my sincerest thanks and appreciation for helping us bring Career Day to PS 160Q. It was an amazing day and you have helped spread the CFK joy into the homes of my students & teachers… Rest easy this weekend knowing that the work you are doing is meaningful, intentional, and powerful.”
Tristan wowed the crowd at our recent talent show, CFK’s Got Talent with not only his math skills, but his dancing, and his basketball moves! Tristan sat down with CFK for a quick chat.
Age: 9 years old
School: Neighborhood Charter School of Harlem
Talents: Math, Dancing, and Basketball
CFK: What’s your favorite subject in school?
CFK: How did you learn your many talents?
Tristan: My Dad taught me basketball. I learned math from my Mom. Ever since I started school she would help me by asking me math problems at home.
CFK: What do you love about math?
Tristan: I like math because it is challenging. You can work hard to solve a problem and you will find the right answer.
CFK: What about dancing? What do you love about that?
Tristan: I love dancing because it is great exercise. I love learning new dances.
CFK: What was your favorite part of CFK’s Got Talent?
Tristan: My favorite part is when I was dribbling the basketball and everyone was impressed.
We sure remain impressed by Tristan, the boy of many talents! Tristan took home second place at our talent show two weeks ago. You can catch Tristan reprising his winning performances LIVE on Change For Kids’ instagram page next week as part of our #GivingTuesdayNow campaign. We’ll see you there!
Hot off her first place win at CFK’s talent show, CFK’s Got Talent, the lovely Niya sat down with CFK so we could all get to know her a little better!
Age: 12 years old
School: Channel View School for Research
CFK: How did you first get involved in singing?
Niya: Everyone in my family is a singer. My Mom says I started singing when I was only a few months old! When I was about 5 or 7 years old, I became a serious singer.
CFK: Do you take singing lessons?
Niya: No, I am self-taught. I listen to my family sing and learn from them by ear.
CFK: Where do you like to sing?
Niya: I sing in church. My whole family goes to church together.
CFK: What’s your favorite style of music to sing?
Niya: Gospel is my favorite, but I also like to sing R&B and Disney.
CFK: What’s your favorite place in the whole world?
Niya: I love Canada, I saw Niagara Falls.
CFK: Who is your favorite singer?
Niya: My favorite singer is my Mom.
Thanks for chatting with us, Niya! Niya is the proud first place winner of CFK’s first talent show. CFK’s Got Talent was last Friday night and was a huge hit! Using zoom, we watched kids from all over the world showcasing their singing, drawing, dancing, and even math skills! Thanks to our guest judges, our audience, and to all the kids who participated! These are changing times and we are so proud to #ChangeTogether.